Hello, all! I wish I could say life is all about health, fitness, and food but the reality is we all go through tough times.
It might look like I’ve got it all figured out, but the truth is I go through ups and downs just like you. Lately, I started to feel a lot of pressure. Things in my life aren’t going as I’d like and I find myself having to stop, take a deep breath, and try to regroup. Just to avoid feeling like I'm overwhelmed and losing control.
From trying to run my own business, pressures, and responsibilities in my full time job, dealing with people who want to target me, trying to shower those same people with kindness, keeping up with the kids, my husband always being gone doing his military duties, trying to help him from lose his marbles, our pups, house chores, holidays, and the biggest one that's on my mind right now is trying to mend my heart that is still broken from my Grandfathers passing. During these times I find myself feeling run down, depressed and at a loss for what to do or where to even start.
I'm usually really optimistic and can take on my challenges fairly quickly but for some reason, everything going on is shaking me up. I even started questioning my ability to be a positive influence or a good leader. I went as far as wondering if I'm a good trainer.
After a few minutes, I had a list of things I wasn’t good at and felt like I was digging myself into a hole that was hard to get out of. All those negative thoughts had me in a bad mood and were blocking me from being the happy, funny and positive person who is me. If you know me then you’re aware that laughing is my favorite thing.
Maybe you’ve been there. It may not be the same combination of struggles but you’ve had something bring you down. Maybe it isn't even a combination of things and solely one matter that day in and day out makes you feel overwhelmed.
I'm literally sitting in the passenger seat, driving to my Grandpas mass, thinking of things I’ve done to help me during other times I've needed to feel calm and decided to share.
Here we go…
First, I write down all the things that are bothering me. I write my list and make sure, to be honest, write down my feelings and not hold back.
Second, I think of all the people that have been part of my life. It can be someone who has been in
my life all or most of my life or someone who came and left. I think of situations or problems they have had that are similar and write down their name next to whatever is weighing me down.
Last, I go down my list and write down advice I would give or gave that particular person. This is both hard and very important because as people we are always very hard on our selves but when our friends or family come to us with problems we sympathize and do our best to help them feel better. And we need to do this for ourselves as well. We cant keep digging ourselves down a spiral of negativity because it will get harder and harder to get out.
Write me a comment or private message, Id like to know how you cope with your struggles. Do you have something to vent about or maybe you just want to say "Hi"? No matter what just don't forget there is always someone here for you, that cares about you.